How to make the best of online dating

Read these helpful dating tips and you could be the busiest person on the block in no time.

If you spent the holiday moping about your singledom (or if you find yourself newly single, ugh) you might be considering a dive into the wild world of online dating—or perhaps just revamping your existing profile.

We bank and order groceries online; we send texts rather than talk. Yes indeed, the relationships and sexuality expert found herself single after a long-term relationship ended (go figure). I live in a small community where it seems like all of the eligible bachelors are my patients! So with a great deal of skepticism, I tried the online dating thing.

We may seem more connected-but we’re actually more isolated than ever. Forget going to the bar, honey; get thee to thy laptop. I had some fun, met some good men, had a few lousy dates-and, most importantly, I survived.

Online dating services are not only convenient, but they also have the apparent advantage of using systematic methods to match us with the partner of a lifetime.

Community Q&A According to a recent survey done by Date Watchers.com, most people are starting to get comfortable with online dating.

You can use technology to keep them straight—cut and paste everyth ing from profiles and pictures to email and responses into spreadsheets or word processing programs, then create a file for each person you’ve contacted.

This is especially useful at the beginning of your communications, when you’re still trying to remember which username goes with which real name.

Even if you do like “walking on the beach” or “drinking wine in front of a roaring fire” leave it out – everyone says that.

Think of something interesting that could be a conversation starter.

Instead of sticking with a boring ‘Hello,’ reference something specific in their profile—such as, ‘Sunday NY Times Poolside’ or ‘Barcelona or Bust.’ By writing a fun and specific subject line, you will make connections faster.” —Liz H.

Kelly, author of “In a classic embarrassment of riches scenario, it’s common to find yourself in the situation of having too many online suitors.

It was natural enough that online dating services would develop and evolve over the past two decades.

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